Can SL Make You Gay?
So what do you think, can SL make a straight person gay? Or more relevant to this article, lesbian? And why would I even ask such a ridiculous sounding question, other than to get your attention? (Because you know I want that.)
Well, first, we know many men out there have a noticeable fascination with lesbians, and secondly, we’re all about stirring the pot. Oh, and sometimes, we really do want answers.
Okay, listen — one of the first things I noticed about SL, and which was soon thereafter strongly reinforced by reading so many blogs by women about their SLives, is that the ratio of female/female couples compared to RL seemed much higher. Not that I’m complaining, mind you, but I’ve always wanted to know why there is so much girl-on-girl action happening in the SL world, while it doesn’t seem to be surrounding me quite so often in RL (much to my chagrin, of course).
Now, sure, I realize things in SL are exaggerated in many circumstances — for example, often times relationships progress and dissolve quicker in SL than in RL, and people will dress their avatars far more provocatively than the person behind the avatar would ever consider dressing in the real world, perhaps — but how do you fall in love, cuddle up, couple up and get stuck with the same sex avatar so easily if you are not into same-sex relationships in the real world? What changes for you once you enter this virtual world?
And why would this phenomena seem to affect women so easily — as it certainly does not seem to be making guys run out and hook up into long-term relationships with another dude once they log into SL.
I feel like asking the ladies: Is it fulfilling a real life fantasy, an unrealized experimental phase you missed out on in college, or hope to get back? Maybe one of the female avs in the relationship secretly suspects her partner is actually a male in real life playing a female, and thus it’s not such a big deal? Or is it merely roleplay, yet somehow fulfilling? Perhaps the ratio of males to females in SL is so heavily skewed there aren’t enough men to go around? (If that’s the case, see me after this post to get my IM number — I’ll be standing by for your call! heh) Maybe it’s as simple as partnering with another female just to ensure no males will ever hit on you — and does that really work, even?
It just seems to me, that if half the girls on my friends list have either hooked up with or are currently partnered with another female, that’s not representative of RL statistics and I’m curious as to why. Please don’t tell me that there are as many all-female couples in RL as displayed in SL, because I’m just not buying it. And I certainly hope it’s not that there aren’t really that many girls coupling up in SL, but the few that are all somehow flock into my world…
What say you?