How to Land Your Dream Girl – Part 2

In the last post, I began by identifying some of the key characteristics that women are looking for in a man. Things like personality, originality, attention, hot pixels, and FUN! It helps to know what she wants, before you try to deliver on the goods. So you have to deliver these to even have a shot, but if you are to score the woman of your dreams, you still have to make it past the first and most significant hurdle:

Part 2: The first date

The first date is really the single most important obstacle you have to overcome to land your dream girl. It is your chance for some quality one-on-one time to see if that twinge you feel in your loins is going to translate into more. You have to be able to throw out the line, feel the nibble, and then hook it just at the right time to land your catch. (Before the chicks go off on me about using a fishing analogy for love, please re-look at the blog header, okay? Thanks!)

The key to a successful first date is through proper planning and attention to details such as the following:

1) Know her interests

I think that often (although not always) the best potential mate is found doing the things you already love doing. It means that you already have something in common to talk about, and it gives you something to do together in the future that you both enjoy. If your hobbies are gaming, racing, art, philosophy, Tiny Empires, DJ’ing, and you land somebody who is running in the same circle, then it will make it easier to know her interests. If you pick a woman up at a club, and you regularly frequent clubs then you are probably going to be in great shape. If you go to a club, solely for the purpose of trying to pick someone up, then you are going to have a lot lower odds of finding a compatible mate. (Note: In a future post we will talk more about sex for sex’ sake, and the beauty of a one night stand, but you really want more from your dream girl than a hookup.)

On the other hand, if you don’t run in the same circles there are still ways of learning more about her interests. In this case, her profile can be your best friend. Double check what groups she is in, these are indicative of her interests. (Note: you still have to beware though that just because she is in the bukkake club, I wouldn’t recommend suggesting it on the first date.) You can also check out the web links to see if she is linked to her personal blog, in which case a little light reading might provide just the lube you need to gain entry (c’mon, that is more fun than keys to the kingdom metaphor).

2) Pick something to do that is active, but doesn’t require a lot of walking

The reason you want something active is so that you have a built in topic to discuss to avoid any breakdowns in communication. If you are at a live music event, then you can always discuss the song or cover that is being played, the performer, what the crowd is doing, etc., if you need topic fillers. You don’t want to go exploring on your very first date because it is very hard to type and keep up with someone when you are walking around through scenic gardens or what not. With the new voice viewer, a voice IM makes it a lot easier to be mobile and still in communication with each other, but if you are not in voice yet it is not recommended.

Dancing is always a great option, particularly at one of the more romantic venues like Avilion or any of a number of great jazz or dance clubs. Atmosphere is critical to making your date feel special, and there are a lot of places like these that can do most of the work for you.

3) Planned spontaneity

This is probably the single most important advice I can impart onto you about doing the first date right. You have to know where you are going, and what you are doing. If you hem haw around, or wait and ask her where she wants to go then you better damn well land outstanding marks in every other single category or else it is over. I think it is okay to present a few options, or to have a backup plan if something goes wrong, but whatever you do don’t go into it without a plan. If she says that she doesn’t care and wants you to pick, then pick dammit, don’t mess this part up! Women want you to take charge and show ’em a good time, not just rely on them to do all the work for you.

Make sure that you take her to familiar territory so you know what to expect. Don’t go trying out a club for the first time, only to find out it is a country joint. Don’t take her to see a live performer you have never heard, because about 1/2 or more of them really suck. You want it to be a fun great time, and don’t leave it to chance, or you will shoot yourself down before you ever get started. Overall the key is to make it appear as if you are just coming up with cool ideas throughout the evening on a whim, and you don’t have to let her know that you were out trying everything out the day before to make sure everything was set up just properly.

4) Devil is in the details

There are a lot of little things you can do to score those precious extra brownie points to offset any lapses in conversation or down times. For instance, if you are taking her somewhere formal then you might want to try dropping a new formal dress and jewelry to match on her ten minutes before you pick her up, but be sure to give her a chance to get dressed before you arrive because women hate throwing on a new outfit in front of you for the first time. They want to adjust it, find the right hair, and shoes… yada yada yada… A corsage, or flowers is an excellent touch.

If you want to go right to advanced status then you can even take the time to place some balls around in appropriate places and have them keyed to specific channels. If things merit a sweet embrace /1 show here, or things are going great and you want a resolution then /2 show there, or she was talking dirty to you all night long and you drop a /69 show way over there…

At the end of the day we are limited in getting our AVs to do only what we have set them up to do, so a little careful prep can turn a nice little evening, into the fireworks type of event that will hook you your dream girl for a long time to come. One sure fire way to end the evening is with a rooftop dance, that seems to work well for me.

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~ by hawksrock on January 13, 2008.

14 Responses to “How to Land Your Dream Girl – Part 2”

  1. “Atmosphere is critical to making your date feel special, and there are a lot of places like these that can do most of the work for you.”

    I like the sound of that. Like those “new” tentacle pits at the orgy rooms, I hear they do the work for you, too. Plus, your date gets boffed by a “god.”

    The rest of this stuff man, sheesh. I mean, great post! Get to work boys!

  2. “I like the sound of that. Like those “new” tentacle pits at the orgy rooms, I hear they do the work for you, too. Plus, your date gets boffed by a “god.””

    Um, Alex? WTF are you talking about?

    ❤ MYG

  3. this post should be required reading at orientation island.

  4. @Myg: I’m glad you’re unaware of it, doll. ‘Coz it’s really not a turn on for me. Just sayin’.

    Tentacle Sex

  5. @Alex: Oh and another thing. You had it WAY too easy. I’m playing hard to get from now on. ;-P

    Love,
    Myg

  6. Now I know why Hawks bought those guns he’s sporting in JellyBean’s flickr stream.

  7. YAY! Another great post, Hawks! Hopefully a few guys will take this to heart, and yes I agree with Chestnut that these should be accessible on Orientation Island. 😉

  8. More excellent advice from Hawks! Boy, I could’ve used this when I was 19…wait I AM 19…in SL! LOL!
    PS: Rooftop dances…been there, done that. Wanna keep dancing 🙂

  9. You’re 19 Garrett? You can’t be employed in a bar in Topgol until you’re 21… If I get busted by ABC. I gotta think how I’m going to handle this.

  10. If I play some Barry Manilow will it make me appear more mature? Besides, how many 19 year-olds look this good in a tux?

  11. You have to know where you are going, and what you are doing. If you hem haw around, or wait and ask her where she wants to go then you better damn well land outstanding marks in every other single category or else it is over. I think it is okay to present a few options, or to have a backup plan if something goes wrong, but whatever you do don’t go into it without a plan.

    Too right. I hate being asked out on a date and then being asked where I want to go.

    One typical conversation went:

    Man (or should that be “man”?): “You say what you want.”
    Me: “I want you to decide what we’re doing.”

    Let’s face it. Virtually anything is good, provided I end up enjoying myself. I don’t enjoy myself with a man who hums and haws.

    BTW, in the bit about the chat, you missed out that you have to make the girl feel beautiful and sexy. This is essential. And if you do this, you have a good chance that you won’t go home alone. 😉

  12. You’re wearing Tuxes, Garrett? You better be careful or you’ll be labeled as a Perv.

  13. […] to the start of another regular feature at AWNM. You’ve read Hawks’ series on Landing Your Dream Girl. Many of you are putting his tips to good use. (God, we love all the reader mail we get at awnm dot […]

  14. I really think…………I’ve made it too easy for men too 😀 maybe this blog makes us want more and more?

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